If you ignore something, it won’t just go away. But if you allow yourself to stop and look at that something, you shift the dynamic to potentially open up endless possibilities!
How are you feeling about your life?
Frustrations from work-life balance, to finances and our life purpose are common mind niggles that the world en mass to try to ignore. Thinking honestly about how our career path is perhaps the one our parents chose for us, or the life we have is one society led us to, for some is too painful.
So we could choose to keep ignoring it, pushing it down and numbing the symptoms for our entire lives…
Or, instead, how about we choose being brave?
How about looking at the unpalatable aspects of our lives, unpacking the parts that don't fit and reassembling them in a way that works better for us?
How about making real, lasting change. Not in a big dramatic way, but in a slow intentional, stealth-like way that sticks?
How about we start allowing ourselves to be who we were always meant to be? What would be more freeing than that?
I don’t think it’s ever too late for any of these options.
If you’re now thinking something like; “Is she drunk? How can we possibly unpack and change the biggest components of our lives? That can’t really be done”, I want you to know that I know it can be done, because I’ve seen it many times. As part of the work I do with women to find their magical life path, I see those brave souls doing exactly what I just described.
One simple step at a time.
So what’s stopping everybody else from doing it? Largely, it’s fear.
The fear we feel at the very idea of big change, goes deeper than the practicalities and day-to-day, how-to stuff.
Sure there are a whole host of financial and practical reasons not to rock the boat. But it’s more than that.
Humans are social pack creatures – there is safety in numbers and this has been installed in our DNA since caveman times. Leaving our career, for example, means leaving our colleagues, our current support system, and a big piece of our personal identity too.
Identity is hugely tied up in what we do, as well as who we are. So it’s perfectly reasonable that we all feel fear around changing our life path.
Firstly, I want to say that you might not choose to change, and that’s perfectly okay. It’s a personal choice, and nobody but you can decide what's right for you.
Secondly, I want to share with you how I look at making the choice to change. We over-complicate it until it becomes huge in our head, but really, it comes down to this question…
“What’s worse? Being afraid and knowing you need to work through a messy patch of change – or staying where you are?”
Notice your gut reaction as you read that question.
It comes down to whether you are willing to risk the security of where you are now, for the possibility of what might be.
I would love it if you would pause here for a moment to ponder that question, as it might be one of the biggest ones you ever ask yourself.
Making a change to the direction your life is heading, is something it’s never too late for - I believe it's never too late to create. You could say however, that it is possible for you to arrive too early at the party, and perhaps you need to come back and revisit this later.
You need to be READY, and I mean truly prepared to take action and diligently do the hard stuff that comes with it.
You already know why change is hard, but it is also worth considering your resilience and energy levels before forging ahead.
Nothing really worth doing comes all that easily , and as much as I love to talk about magic, I must be responsible in reminding you that life is no fairy tale.
The magic I see in my brave women doesn’t come from fairy dust or a wish – it comes from courage, persistence, and the willingness to grow.
So you do need to be ready to do the hard bits; to face some fears and to feel all the feelings – the good and the bad. Change is hard in the beginning, messy and tiring in the middle and only blissful at the end. I want you to remember this if you are considering making a big change to your own life path.
I’m not saying do it. I’m not saying don’t do it. That’s 100% your call. I’m saying come in with your eyes open and your heart fire blazing, ready and willing to do the work.
So having said plenty about when not to make that big change, if you are feeling ready to make whatever that change is for you, then the next thing to talk about is having support and structure.
If the idea of making whatever change you are planning feels like leaping into a whirling black hole, then these are the two key elements to focus on.
I offer both structure and support, through the 8 modules of my (now fully tried and tested) 6 month Magical Life Circle programme.
We are a small introvert-friendly group of brave women – so there’s some extra support right there. This year’s intake is now closed, but I also offer the same support structure through my 1:1 Unfold Your Magic mentoring programme.
Well, let me tell you a little more.
Of the 8 Magical Processes I guide you through, the first process is to Unfold Possibility.
This is about re-establishing firm foundations for your future through powerful practices for busting through fear and accessing hope and possibility.
If you are seeking your big change and feeling stuck, or maybe unable to fully visualise where you want to go, then this is how I will get you started.
Your programme incorporates visualisations, energy practices and intuitive guidance to support you on your journey.
The ultimate goal is to guide you back home to yourself, so that you can tap into your inner resources and use them as a lifelong compass from which to navigate and ultimately liberate your life.
You can join the waitlist for the 2021 circle here.
Or if you can't wait that long, apply to work with me 1:1 here.
Whatever you choose for your future self, do make sure you don’t ignore pain. If it’s hurting on a soul level, then it needs to be addressed. When you do look at it and begin to unpack that pain, make sure you do it with support.
When someone else holds the light for us as we start to explore, it makes all the difference to how often we trip up and stumble.
If you know you need support, ask for it from whoever you most resonate with. Don't be shy - you are worthy of a helping hand.
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